I once heard someone saying, "This word Sorry is a wonderful word. It's a good tool. Just use it and close the chapters". And I wondered, “So if it has been so much of a wonderful word, how many times have you used it? And how many chapters did you manage to close successfully?”
Defining
the term “Sorry” can be an altogether different story for everyone of us. This
word has been dramatized as something that is related to a sign of guilt, unforgivable
mistakes or deeds. It is generally categorized in the vocabulary of all negative
words and concepts.
Isn’t
it a contradictory thing? We have a notion that a single “Sorry” has the
potential to close all chapters and still is one of the words related to
negative emotions? This ideally happens because of the old thought process of, “Sorry
is something that has to be done by people who have committed horrifying
mistakes or Sorry is supposed to be something that takes you to the feet of the
other person”.
Let us normalize the word “Sorry”. Understand the
simple principle that if you admire the person standing in front of you, “sorry”
would be nothing more than a five lettered word for you. Using it would not sound
to you that it is degrading you, in fact, it will make you more confident
towards the relationships and the people whom you value.
Have you ever wondered, we take loads of time to
think if we should be the one saying sorry? But when it comes to taking that
sorry from someone, we enjoy the process. It is a psychological concept fit in
our minds that a weaker person should be the one saying sorry or a child in
relation to an adult should use sorry or a woman in the relationship should be
more prone to use the word sorry.
And where does this biasness come from? It comes through
the society’s conceptualization that children, women are the weaker sections of
the population. Ever thought how many times you could have just bent a little and
being sorry to a child whom you scolded because you couldn’t understand what
he/she was trying to tell you? Have you ever thought how many times did you go
to your partner and said sorry because you couldn’t manage to do those little
things for them?
It still doesn’t feel to be a big deal, right? It
is happening because of the little ego that is residing in the corner of the
mind. Please understand that it is not just the places where you have committed
big mistakes, but also, where you have unknowingly hurted someone or misunderstood
someone or you couldn’t make up for them, where you can be sorry to that someone
who never always complaint but still is hurt.
Saying
sorry not just states that you admit that you have fallen a little short but it
also shows that you accept that it needs to be improved. This sense of
confidence that you give to the other person can make remarkable differences in
the relationship building management. Just remember an old saying, “Saying
sorry doesn’t always mean that you were wrong, it at times mean that you value
your relationship more than anything else”.
